A couple of months ago I had the chance to get interviewed by Hugo Castellanos for his Podcast Conexiones  (Podcast is in Spanish)

towards the end of the interview Hugo asked me a question along the lines of “since you were in the Marines and you’ve been in combat you’ve dealt with so much stress, so I bet the office environment is like a walk in the park” and boy, I could tell you, I can talk for hours about that. 

Anyway, yes being shot at is kinda of stressful, it can be traumatic, but I am not going to talk about trauma and PTSD here, even though that’s a big topic for me as well since I have so many people close to me that have suffered trauma. I’ve lost 2 friends to suicide from the service, one of them happened in front of me so, yeah big heavy subject. 

That doesn’t mean that service members are the only ones that suffer from stress, everyone does. What I’d like to do here is say what has worked for me and what doesn’t always work. 

First, I’d like to tell you what worked for me back in the day by pure luck  When I was in Iraq I just KNEW I’d come back. I was 100% positive nothing bad was going to happen to me, to the point that I did things I shouldn’t have done like volunteer for stuff I shouldn’t really volunteer for. I knew people that were consumed and obsessed with fear and it didn’t help them at all, they were living in misery. I just told myself that there’s pretty much nothing I could do about the danger so why stress out about it since it makes no difference, if I am going to get blown up might as well not be miserable while I’m still here, right? In that case, I do recommend letting go of the things you can’t control, but I’m getting ahead of myself. 

Positive thinking is nice, but that alone is not enough. Here’s what I think works better. 

Clarity of Purpose and Preparation. 

If you have a clear reason or purpose for putting yourself through something then there isn’t much you won’t be willing to do to reach that purpose. Most of us ar